@james I think there’s a balance to be found here. “Just get on with it” isn’t a healthy or effective approach, but especially for children I feel like you have to try to avoid them internalising “I have this condition therefore there’s no point even trying”. I’ve found that a really hard balance to get, both in myself and when talking to my son, and I absolutely side on erring away from pushing too hard.

@jon in this case the son is 25. And is receiving no help with ADHD because the parent and therapist haven’t thought about it. So he may have very little knowledge about having it, or how it manifests.